Real Chat: A lesson learned through overcommitment

A little story about how the height of stress in my week became a lesson in the school of motherhood..

Gabriel and Veronica play really well together, and there is a comradery between then that fills my heart to witness. Where one goes, the other goes. And if one is getting into trouble, they are both getting into trouble.... One day this week, I had a hand written to do list full of the many things I was going to accomplish. Gabriel eagerly told me he was going to water the flowers, so of course I obliged. As I was answering some emails I saw him bring in his water can to fill up. Ten minutes later, I saw him run by again. I was happy he was occupied with the great outdoors. Veronica of course was toddling along behind him every time. After the fourth time I wanted to make sure he wasn't drowning the flowers on our back patio. To my pleasant surprise, I found muddy tracks throughout the house in what appeared to be the pack of 7 dwarves. I hadn't realized their little feet had been muddy during all that back and forth. (They have this uncanny ability to find the one patch of mud in our backyard.) It took everything in me not to have my own version of a toddler meltdown right then and there. It was a mess I didn't have time for. Don't worry, I held it together, due to the fact that parts of a quote I had read that morning started to reel through my head...

“Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.” 
~Mother Teresa

My first role on this earth is to be a mother. To love those babies and my husband first, with the best of my capabilities, and the rest can take second place. Its what I was made for, and what makes me the most happy. I knew this was a moment to seize and conquer versus to be defeated by. (Granted, there are many moments like this that trample me over.) 

Gabriel is keenly aware of my reactions to things. He is a very sensitive 3 year old. He saw my original reaction of horror, and new he must have done something. "Mommy, I'n so sorry mama." A big hug followed to make up for his mess. I took a big breath and maybe counted to 120. I looked at him in the eyes and reassured him it was okay because it was an accident, and he could help me clean it up. (Veronica just stood there with her big blues-clueless.) I then of course thanked Mother Teresa for the wisdom and saving me from a bad moment;) A few days later I can already smile over how ridiculous it all was, and how cute their innocent faces were.

 I think as a human being in general we are creatures of habit. My personality tends to fight the same flaws over and over. One of those being filling my plate too full, getting stressed, losing sleep, and giving my family a half-rate version of myself. I then always turn to my husband and swear I will never do it again. And then...well you know how it goes. At the end of this week I resolved to be realistic with myself. To reserve certain hours of my day as sacred time for my family alone - no matter how bad my email inbox is glaring or phone buzzing at me. I think its a necessary. My own mother was a beautiful example of being the heart of the home. It wasn't her list of domestic abilities that made her a good mother, it was the heart she put into being a mother. We always knew that we were most important to her over anything else.

Have you struggled with overcommitment? How do you battle it?
Thanks for reading through this lengthy post! 

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  1. Be thankful you are realizing it this early on! I look back now and wish I had taken more opportunities to just be, rather than do, do, do! And yes, while you probably wanted to scream at first...it will definitely be one of those things you will all laugh about way down the road!

  2. Amen sista friend, as Lorelai Gilmore would say :)
    I love your stories of your cute kids - they sound like really cheerful little people :)

  3. I love the quote. It is normally these little moments that teach us more than we can ever imagine. Thanks for reminding me of that :)
    A Little Bit Adrift

  4. The quotes are priceless. Thank you for the great morning read with my coffee. I will love muddy footprints from now on.:)

  5. You have such a gorgeous family! Enjoy the weekend, checking out your links now. PS Love the MT quote.

  6. What a sweet post, Anna. Life is messy, and you couldn't be more right, we just can't do it all. Though I'm sure we wish we could. You are a great mother!

    Happy weekend, sweet friend. xo

  7. Great insight Anna!

    Paul tracked in mud to the living room this morning too - it's just too precious to have a little boy without mud, I'm trying to manage him less when he's outdoors, and he does gravitate towards anything muddy (and the neighbor's yard...haha).

    I feel the solidarity of motherhood when I read about your family life, it's really wonderful! Thank you!

  8. oh gosh, i cringed at the thought of those muddy tracks! but...i love your reaction! and theirs, how cute he was sorry!

  9. Loved this post, Anna. At times, I would swear my little ones were having weekly meetings as to how they could push me over the edge. Ha ha! Amazing quote from Mother Theresa.

    Lisa :-)

  10. What a lovely post. I love that you turned things around and dealt with the situation differently. I am a huge overachiever and I tend to take on more than I can handle at times. I cannot even imagine what it must be like to juggle that AND being a mom. Mad props to you, you really are a superhero.

  11. EVERY single day of my life is a battle of overcommitment. And every day I tell myself that "tomorrow will be different". It is my biggest obstacle to overcome, so I felt a sense of relief when I read this post "oh, I'm not the only one". Thanks for sharing your heart :)

  12. i struggle with the same issue. it is hard to balance it all! love your heart. hope you are having a wonderful weekend! xoxo

  13. The fact that you recognize this in yourself is a testament to what a great momma you are! It's so hard to keep a hold on things (emotionally), but I'm always grateful when I do, as it's usually something I could have done to prevent my kids from making a mess, hurting themselves, etc. Your little guy sounds so adorably sweet! Thanks for sharing this!!!

  14. this kind of patience is not easy but you did it and I admire you for that!! have a great week!!!

  15. thank you for your comment and taking the time to swing by and have a little look at my blog, you probably didn't see much of my own photography but i have done loads in the past. i'm now inspired to get more going on from you posts!

  16. I love posts like these, Anna! Thank you for the great reminders :)

  17. You're such a great mum Anna! Plus you CAN do more than mosz ;) I think, if there is genuine, unconditional love, all problems, big and small can be mastered - and what needs to be done, will get done! (At least i hope so, tee hee) xx

  18. Love this post and the poem! I feel the same way you do-- I keep telling myself I'm going to take a step back and be more present and put my kids first. Then I find myself typing away while my six year old begs me to play a board game. I think I need to print out that poem and hang it above my computer to remind myself of what is really important.

  19. absolutely agree. our kids need us especially at this crucial stage of growing up. family is always first. :)

  20. absolutely agree. our kids need us especially at this crucial stage of growing up. family is always first. :)

  21. This is one Hubsy and I struggle with all the time. We both work full-time and also have our own businesses on top of it that we are trying to grow. We always reserve Friday Night for Family Night but are trying to incorporate more dedicated family time too. Thank you for sharing your struggles too in this post. It will bless all to know we are not alone :)

  22. I have to remind myself to slow down and enjoy the time with my son. Sometimes I take on too much but he is quick to remind me he needs me. I don't want to miss out on all the moments I can with him.

    Loved this post!

  23. Thank you so much for sharing and being so honest. I think most of us experience this and it is such a wonderful reminder to slow down and appreciate time with the ones you love!


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